by David Bowman, LMFT | Nov 22, 2025 | General, Relationships, Therapy
Marcel Proust had his temps perdu [lost times], and Thomas Wolfe told us we can’t go home again. The snows of yesteryear have evaporated into thin air, and like them, the days and times of our youth are gone. When we visit an old familiar place, such as an old...
by David Bowman, LMFT | Nov 1, 2025 | Family, Father Figures, Featured, Men's Issues, Relationships
In Finding our Fathers, Sam Osherson cites a broad study indicating that only 17 percent of American men had a positive relationship with their fathers. In most cases the father was dead, divorced and missing, chemically impaired, or emotionally absent. If this...
by David Bowman, LMFT | Oct 22, 2025 | Couples, Dating, Featured, Relationships, Sex, Singles
In Western society, being straight (heterosexual) and being in a monogamous relationship (with only one romantic partner at a time) have been seen as the “normal” or ideal ways to live. Because of this, even when same-sex or gender-fluid relationships are...
by David Bowman, LMFT | Oct 9, 2025 | Addiction, Dating, Featured, Recovery, Relationships, Sex, Therapy
Addiction is a kind of runaway train that leaves the station when we stop dealing with our emotions, stop living our fullest lives, and stop wanting to cope with whatever life throws at us. Addiction is a kind of vacation from life that eventually becomes the Vacation...
by David Bowman, LMFT | Apr 15, 2025 | Featured, Men's Issues, Relationships, Women's Issues
From Rilke’s “Letters to a Young Poet” “All companionship can consist only in the strengthening of two neighboring solitudes, whereas everything that one is wont to call giving oneself is by nature harmful to companionship: for when a person abandons himself, he is no...
by David Bowman, LMFT | Feb 3, 2021 | Couples, COVID, Dating, Relationships, Singles
For both singles and couples, long periods of isolation or cocooning with just one or two others has taken an unexpected emotional toll. This two-part article examines a few of the ways, some healthy and some questionable—though understandable—that we cope with our...
