1. You’ve realized that your friends’ advice is more about them than it is about you.
  2. You’ve thought so much about your issue that you’ve thought yourself into a state of paralysis.
  3. You know what needs to be done but you can’t seem to put it into action.
  4. You’re having symptoms like depression, anxiety, or psychosomatic aches and pains for which you can find no apparent explanation—let alone relief.
  5. No one really understands your problems.
  6. Your life bogs down with self-criticism, self-doubt, and self-sabotage.
  7. You keep attracting the same kind of people into your life over and over again.
  8. You keep repeating the same behaviors over and over again and expecting different results.
  9. You’ve developed addictions, dependencies, and compulsive behaviors.
  10. You are becoming increasingly exasperated (and maybe bitter?) towards the people (and even the world?) around you.

BONUS: 11. You could use some input from someone whose only agenda is your mental, physical, and spiritual well-being.

David Bowman LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist based in Los Angeles, California.

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