Love the Second Time Around
From Rilke’s “Letters to a Young Poet” “All companionship can consist only in the strengthening of two neighboring solitudes, whereas everything that one is wont to call giving oneself is by nature harmful to companionship: for when a person abandons himself, he is no...
Lessons from Long-term Sobriety
“Relapse is part of recovery,” goes the saying. Not that we welcome relapse, but it happens. For myself and for many others, a relapse after a years-long period of sobriety is a very different affair from our initial climb out of the world of substances. At this later...
Absent Fathers and Their Sons
Over the years, I have seen many male clients, of all sexualities, and it has become obvious to me that the majority of them had absent fathers (or father figures), that is, absent in one way or another. While many grew up with physically absent fathers, others had...
Tackling Projects
Readers of this blog may be surprised by my sudden reappearance in this space. The truth is that over the past three years I have focused my writing and spare time on finishing a project that has been in the works for me for over 10 years. My online course and e-book...
Love in the Time of Coronavirus: Part 1 – The Singles
For both singles and couples, long periods of isolation or cocooning with just one or two others has taken an unexpected emotional toll. This two-part article examines a few of the ways, some healthy and some questionable—though understandable—that we cope with our...
Love in the Time of Coronavirus: Part 2 – The Couples
For both singles and couples, long periods of isolation or cocooning with just one or two others have taken an unexpected emotional toll. This two-part article examines a few of the ways, some healthy and some questionable—though understandable—that we cope with our...